Jack added a comment a few weeks ago that is worth re-posting as a separate topic. It’s a little twist on our most fundamental challenge.
I am a young 91 yr old man who has had systolic kidneys for over 30+ years. 4.5 +- creatinine level. last April (2015) my kidneys finally gave out and after a week in E.R. and another week in rehab. now on dialysis 3 times a week for 3 hours. My last check-up showed my creatinine at 5.9., a little improvement. (more…)
Marli (not her real name) wrote recently:
Hello, my name is Marli. I am learning a lot from your blog so thank you so much for all that you are doing.
I am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 24. We have been together about 8 months. He was born with failed kidneys and it is a very touchy subject for him so I’m afraid to ask him about it. (more…)
Here is the third Briefing module. As usual, it is not quite as I expected. It was to cover two aspects: Physical, how you may feel before the session; during the session; after the session; when you get home, effect on sleep; and Emotional (Mental): dealing with the new reality; the grief cycle.
I received several very valuable emails and comments on both topics, but especially on the grief cycle. As a result, each turned out to be bigger than expected. So I decided to write one sheet on each topic, beginning with grief: coming to accept life on dialysis.
So here is Briefing 3. Dialysis – from Shock to Acceptance
Special thanks to Devon Texas and Carl from Winnipeg, Canada for their valuable input.
While researching the grief cycle, I found that there are several versions. The 5-Stage cycle is the most popular, but I think the 7-Stage cycle is more appropriate for BigD-ers. However, I found a wonderful summary of the 5-Stage cycle in Wikipedia from The Simpsons, which is well worth repeating:
Dr. Hibbard: Now, a little death anxiety is normal. You can expect to go through five stages. The first is denial.
Homer: No way! Because I'm not dying! [hugs Marge]
Dr. H: The second is anger.
Homer: Why you little! [steps towards Dr. H]
Dr. H: After that comes fear.
Homer: What's after fear? What's after fear? [cringes]
Dr. H: Bargaining.
Homer: Doc, you gotta get me out of this! I'll make it worth your while!
Dr. H: Finally, acceptance.
Homer: Well, we all gotta go sometime.
Dr. H: Mr. Simpson, your progress astounds me.